Baseball politics

[etumukutenyak]

My own baseball team is apparently going through some upheaval. I never discussed the drama being played out in the first season, with one of my teammates demonstrating her abilities as a Drama Queen. In our inaugural season, she clearly needed to show off her baseball skills, and even attempted to supplant our coach/manager/pitcher/team founder. It failed, and she steadily irritated me with her Drama Llama stunts. Sadly, she managed to alienate not only herself from me, but also another player, the Young Lesbian with the crush on her, from me. It was a sudden split, as these things often are with women. It was poorly timed, being right after my birthday, which was just a few weeks after her birthday, on which we all went to dinner at an extremely expensive restaurant. I have never seen a bill that high, and it was higher than it needed to be because DQ kept asking for additional food. It would have been one thing if we'd all had just the right amount of food, but she had to keep asking for more, which was not free -- and then she didn't finish the food.

I insisted on having my birthday dinner at an Indian restaurant, because I love Indian food; she took this as an insult to herself (because I apparently knew and deliberately ignored the fact that she was once poisoned by Indian spices and couldn't stomach the thought of Indian food..see, it's all about her, all the time) and stopped communicating with me. YL also stopped, except for one last email in which she attempted to get me to "talk with DQ" about our "problems". It was so blatantly directed by DQ that I was rather irritable in my response, which was basically "no thanks". The end.

I failed to pay any attention to her in our second season, for which I was rewarded by a singular lack of drama in my life. Yay.

So. Apparently the team decided to have a Girls Night Out on Friday. We already had a commitment, at the elementary school (International Night, on which families bring ethnic foods to share and then there is music). I am so glad I skipped this Girls Night, after seeing the emails in my inbox today.

They blindsided our pitcher/coach/founder with some crap about how she was abusive and such. Mainly she didn't pay much attention to our DQ, and that's abusive, yanno. So now DQ is taking her ball elsewhere (FINALLY!) and playing with some other team, to be determined. Not to be out-done, our Young Lesbian is going with her (the crush is obviously still going strong even though DQ is now a married woman), and going publicly, with additional slams against our leader. Others on the team have begun to chime in with complaints about "all the politics", which means that they had to listen to DQ complaining all season long.

Sheesh! WOMEN! Even worse, YOUNG women with overly large senses of ENTITLEMENT. (DQ signed her email as [name], PhD. She's irritated me with her insistence on being called "doctor" before, and it continues to irk me, as she really thinks she's a doctor. She's not. She holds a doctorate, and can be addressed as Dr. {Name}, but she is not a physician, veterinarian, or dentist -- these are doctors. Anyways.)

Honey was irritated by DQ's transparent games last year, to the point of psychoanalyzing her (and she hasn't been a counselor in YEARS), and when Honey gets irritated...that's Bad Stuff. I'm easily irritated, and she's not. Honey felt bad about losing touch with YL, but hey -- YL's an adult and can make her own damned mistakes.

The team will likely lose a few more people who think DQ has a point; many of them are just as young as she is and not wise enough to see her games for what they are. That's fine. No harm done if they go play on another team.

It's worth it just as long as DQ leaves for good. GOODBYE DQ! DON'T LET THE DOOR HIT YOU IN THE A$$ ON THE WAY OUT!

Was that subtle enough?

Comments

[outtamyskull.livejournal.com]

Oh me too. Me too!

[etumukutenyak.livejournal.com]

You too, what? You want career counseling too? I thought you knew what you were going to be: an Evil Agent. ;-)

Well, if you don't have my other email addresses, you can email me at my LJ name (at) yahoo dot com.

:-)

He wants analyzing

[sarahahoyt.livejournal.com]

Seriously. :D

As for your post -- er... -- I went to an all girls' school. Reading this just brought it all back. Post traumatic stress disorder.

The horror, the horror!

(Actually more the bitching, bickering, politics and knifing in the back. Pfui.)

Re: He wants analyzing

[etumukutenyak.livejournal.com]

Oh, yes..you can understand why -- at an early age -- I abandoned the thought of "hanging out" with the girls in my class and became one of the boys. From second grade (roughly 7 years old) through seventh grade (roughly 12), I was a boy. Well, not anatomically, but socially and culturally.

Then I went to a womens college.

The interesting thing about my team is, the politicking and bickering and knifing is all done by the young ones. Us older women don't play those games. It's been amusing for the most part, but every now and then one does get irritated with them.

Hm. Someone is jackhammering outside this room. They must be digging today after all. Whee.

Re: Yep, I too was one of the guys

[sarahahoyt.livejournal.com]

Helped by fact that I had an older brother and was naturaly co-opted into his "group" -- in fact, was briefly nationalized as "The People's Sister."

The fuzzy wooly blanket of female conditional sisterhood just annoyed living heck out of me. I'd rather be pounded than gossiped against behind my back. It made life so much easier. :)

Of course, I'm better now. Er... I think.

Re: Yep, I too was one of the guys

[etumukutenyak.livejournal.com]

Oh, I couldn't agree more! Fight and get over it -- and none of this sniping, gossiping, behind-the-back BS. And if you can't get over it, well then, never again acknowledge their existence. Much simpler!

Sheesh. Women. Can't live with them, can't..er. Something. We need a society for sane women. The "American Association of Sane Sisters..."? ;-)

Re: Yep, I too was one of the guys

[sarahahoyt.livejournal.com]

Well... I can live without women. In fact, have managed reasonably well since I have two sons, too. YAY.

And of course, there are women who are my friends. I don't know about sisters -- never had any -- sane women should be enough. :) We could be the AASW. Um... I just know some people will make nasty stuff out of that acronym.

On the different styles of association of men and women, I found this book fascinating http://www.amazon.com/Self-Made-Man-Womans-Journey-Manhood/dp/0670034665/sr=8-1/qid=1164222757/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/105-8687775-8566038?ie=UTF8&s=books

Mind you, her perspective is different from mine because I think I understand men better. Or at least I never had some of the illusions she ascribes to straight women -- due perhaps to having been "The People's Sister" in front of whom conversations were NOT censored. And the samples she chose are, to put it mildly, odd. BUT all the same, it gave even me some insights while reading it.

(Even me -- opinionated AND full of myself.)

Sarah

Re: Yep, I too was one of the guys

[etumukutenyak.livejournal.com]

You might be able to live without women, but..er..my partner is a woman. ;-) I know, I know: I went from hating girls ("gurls? YUCK") to loving 'em. In other words, I was a typical boy, right? ;-)

I've seen the book mentioned before, never read it, but now I shall. I think perhaps your perspective might well have been unsheltered, because I do know how boys and men behave without any women around (and yes, that was a real compliment in veterinary school, while I hung out with my male housemates...). It will be interesting to read another woman's perspective of male behavior.

I have to admit, the more I know monkeys, the better I understand human beings. ;-)

We hates girls...especially in middle school

[etumukutenyak.livejournal.com]

By the way, I was too late to join in on the support for your son's problems. I'm so glad Amanda found that article on bullying. I am not at all surprised that the girls were bullying -- I was bullied in middle school by some very intensely nasty girls, all of whom were expelled in the 7th grade, mainly for bullying and other illegal activities. These were the girls who were smoking in 6th grade and so on.

Feel free to drop me a line here or privately if you want to compare notes or vent about schools, teachers, and admin incompetence. We've dealt with our own sources of irritation until the principal retired. Major issues, mainly one teacher deciding our son was ADHD (quite illegally), and insisting that he needed medication.

He does have an LD, but he doesn't have ADHD.

::sigh::

If we were closer, I'd volunteer to be your "bodyguard" at the official meetings. I look mean enough when I'm mad, and I have an extensive familiarity with applicable Federal law, which I can trot out in rather intimidating phrases on the spot.

;-) Only for friends, ya see.

If Eric would like a penpal who is in the fifth grade, and is dealing with boy-on-boy bullying right now, and has difficulty talking when he's mad, then my son could be his penpal. I'd even let him IM or email.

Phew. What a life it can be some days!

[outtamyskull.livejournal.com]

Assuming failing at Evil Agenting doesn't land me dead or in jail, i'd need something to fall back on. Besides, i can learn hypnosis and use that to convince people to buy books. :-P

[etumukutenyak.livejournal.com]

Or you could -- yanno -- use psych to make people want to buy your books. Hey, how many therapists does it take to change a light bulb? One, but the bulb has to really want to change. How about this one -- how many non-directive therapists does it take to change a light bulb?


How many would you like there to be?


[ba-dum-SHHH]

I'm here all week, folks! Try the veal! Thenkyew verra much!