Time to Vent About the Ex

[etumukutenyak]

It seems like every time she sees evidence that I've been working around the house -- cleaning, having work done, etc. -- it provokes a conditioned response in her, and she remembers that she's trying to get bought out.

She had stopped by to bring the tents and pick up Sonny's brace, and noticed the boxes of siding in the yard. That triggered her next line of thought, which was that she needed to resolve the house issue. Yes, *she* needed to resolve it. She wondered if we could work this out together, or if we needed to involve the mediator.

Naturally, I told her we'd work with the mediator, and unless she was willing to drop her "price" it wasn't happening too fast. She didn't care for me walking away from her, but too bad!

As if we could even pretend to focus on the house at the same time as getting our son straightened out! What a selfish jerk.

Well, I can't afford to buy her out AND save our son, so she'll just have to take it or leave it. If she wants to pretend that he's not going to need in-house patient care for his alcoholism, then she can pay for it all herself.

Comments

[hawkwing-lb.livejournal.com]

*hug*

[etumukutenyak.livejournal.com]

UGH..and an hour later, she's calling to ask nicely about an email from one of his teachers, with homework attached. It's as if she's two personalities. No, on second thought, she really does have two personalities.

*hug* Thanks for listening...

[hawkwing-lb.livejournal.com]

It's what we're here for. :)

[mjlayman.livejournal.com]

Do you mind telling me how you own the house? There are two (or more) owners that can be set up in several ways and some of them would let her start the house process now. (marilee@mjlayman.com)

[etumukutenyak.livejournal.com]

If I remember correctly, it is one of those that can be done unilaterally, unfortunately. She had threatened to do that early on, and was shamed into dropping that line of attack. It's mainly her meanness at work, but if she does proceed, I will fight back with everything I have. Now is not the time to sell our son's home out from under me.

[mjlayman.livejournal.com]

Yeah, you probably really need to use the mediator for that, then. You can talk about how pulling Sonny out of the house he's lived in for years would be really bad for him, and did she want to then buy your half of the house right now, etc. Those would probably somewhat affect her mind.

The most common thing done in that set-up is for either to buy the other half of the house. If they can't, then one can force the sale of the entire house. It would be a good idea to start looking at how much half the house is worth and whether you can change your mortgage.

And if FG ever becomes that close, see a real-estate lawyer before you choose how to own property.

[etumukutenyak.livejournal.com]

The only flaw in this issue is that she did not actually buy in -- she did not contribute financially to the purchase of the house, nor to the renovation/refinance. She's on paper only.

I would have bought her out had there been a buy-in to begin with. Since there wasn't, we've got negotiating to do.

All future partners will be required to sign a pre-nup! ;-)

[mjlayman.livejournal.com]

Ah, I didn't realize that. Yes, a pre-nup is an excellent idea!