It comes from years and years of practice! I admit I wouldn't have been so level-headed when I was younger, but after having gone through at least one other intensely traumatic experience, plus being a clinical veterinarian with at least one acute emergency situation under my belt, I'm better at remaining calm in a crisis. I know what I need to do, and with whom. My mother* needs reassuring that I'm ok, and not to be too mad at Honey; my son needs to hear a modified version of what I post, so he knows how to process this kind of situation and that he is not alone in his feelings. Towards my ex, I have to remain neutral to positive and hope that what I say and do will reach across her pain, someday. And so, my friends bear the brunt of my chaotic emotions, because this is the safe place to vent. I do some posting on Facebook too, because some of my friends aren't on LJ, but I have to be more careful about what I say because she is still on my f-list, and her family is, too. That's how I know her siblings were surprised by all this; her sister-in-law emailed me about it as soon as she knew, from my initial post in FB.
Anyway. More than you really wanted to hear, right? ;-)
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Date: 2010-02-02 02:00 pm (UTC)Anyway. More than you really wanted to hear, right? ;-)